Choosing the right people to surround yourself with is one of the most powerful ways to shape the quality of your life. The people you spend your time with can either lift you higher, inspire you to grow, and support you through life’s challenges, or drain your energy, limit your potential, and leave you feeling alone even when surrounded by a crowd. It’s not always about the number of people, but about the depth and quality of those connections.

Finding the right tribe starts with a deep understanding and acceptance of yourself. You must embrace who you truly are – your quirks, dreams, fears, and all. It’s only when you stop pretending and start living authentically that you’ll naturally attract people who are aligned with your true essence. I’ve learned this through my own journey. I’ve had to let go of some connections that no longer served me, and in doing so, I made space for those who truly get me – women who celebrate my highs, hold my hand through my lows, and genuinely want to see me thrive. So, how do you find these people? How do you know you’re spending your precious time with the right ones? Here are some thoughts on this journey:

🌟 Be Your Authentic Self

If you fake who you are, you’ll attract people who resonate with that version, not the real you. When I started listening to my heart, doing the work I love, and unapologetically being myself, I found my people. This meant parting ways with some old connections, as I realized those friendships were not genuine. They were built on mismatched values, lifestyles, and mindsets. It was tough, but necessary. You can't attract the right tribe if you aren't showing your true colors.

🌟 Safe Spaces Matter

You should feel safe with your people – safe to share anything, safe to say no, and safe to be quiet without judgment. The right friends respect your boundaries and make you feel secure. I am so grateful to have amazing women in my life now, who support me without judgment, even when I overshare.

🌟 Shared Energy, Same Page

When you’re in sync, everything feels natural. You vibe on the same wavelength, share similar priorities, and grow together. I’m lucky to have women in my life who just get it, without me having to explain myself.

🌟 Mutual Respect and Understanding

They understand your life situations and respect your choices without pushing their own opinions. They don’t force their ideas on you or offer unsolicited advice, but instead, they truly listen and try to understand where you are coming from. This kind of support is priceless.

🌟 No Judgment, Just Love

Real friends accept where you are in life without judgment. They don’t make you feel bad for being in therapy, struggling, or just figuring things out. They offer their hand without making you feel small or broken.

🌟 Connection Beyond Words

You can share a comfortable silence without feeling the pressure to fill every moment with words. You can sit in the same room, watch a movie together without makeup, and just exist – and it feels right.

🌟 Shared Stories and History

Sometimes, it’s the shared experiences, the tough moments you’ve gone through together, that create the deepest bonds. I’m grateful for my friend Veronika, who has been in my life for 13 years. We may have had our silent times, but our connection always finds its way back.

Once you find the right people, life will get so much easier. That’s how you know! 🤗

XO, Zuzi